Communication in Marriage
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Do you ever watch those dance competitions on TV? It’s amazing how the couples move across the dance floor in such harmony with one another. I wish I could say that I can dance. Instead, when I take to the dance floor, my moves are stunted; I stumble and am out of step with the beat.
Communication can be a lot like dancing. Discussions flow and move forward when we take turns speaking. But when we don’t follow steps of good communication, we struggle with who leads, we step on each other’s toes, and we move away from each other rather than with each other. There’s no fluid movement and no yielding to the other. More often than not, communication can be more like a battle of tug of war than a beautiful waltz.
That’s because of our sinful hearts. We naturally desire to have our own way. We look out for what we think is best for ourselves instead of seeking what is best for others. Our first instinct is not to extend grace, but to stand our ground and win at all costs. Watch any group of children on the playground try to agree on what game to play and you’ll see what I mean….to read the rest of this post, visit iBelieve, one of my other writing homes.
Marlene A Hibbard
July 18, 2014 at 9:50 pm (1 year ago)Christina, You’ve got it right. We forget about God’s grace to us, we want our own way and our whole country is plague with marital problems because we don’t extend grace to our spouses. Thanks for sharing.